Baby Language?

It's okay not to understand them. 

Slowly we learnt his cry to feed him, change his nappy, give him attention and to try to get him to sleep. 

Babies do not come with a manual, there is no instructions and defiantly no training can prepare you for a baby, even if you have one, two or maybe three others, they are all different and work by their own rules. But you do learn, even if the resolution is to let them cry it out, sometimes they just need to. 

There has been days when he just cries for what seems to be no reason, however most of the time with my boy it is over tiredness. Since he was born he hated going to sleep, he fights it with every fiber of his being, maybe it's his survival instinct or just he doesn't want to, we will never know. 

BABIES ARE SELFISH, this is a key piece on information my HV gave to me, there is no bargaining or compromise, you must mold yourself around your baby. They do not understand that you are tired, stressed, hungry or even just in a bad mood for some reason. They only understand what they want, which can not be blamed on them. Even if sometimes you know they are crying for no reason e.g. they have just been changed, fed and cuddled into a sleepy haze, but they just cry and cry (my son is doing this as a type) but you slowly learn what that cry is, for example mine is over tired right now and wont sleep, so he is being rocked in his bouncer (his favourite chair). 

I have learnt over the three months he has been alive, that if I get stressed I need to take a couple minutes to myself, as babies know what buttons to press and when to make your blood boil if you are having a particular bad day for other reasons, but when they smile and giggle at you all is forgiven.